When becoming friends, one can say that the following relationship is maintained. You respect the other more than yourself. You love the other. However, not as much as you love yourself. In your interaction with the other, you at least approach with intimacy and gentleness. Yet, it is not to the extent of falling into an excessive intimacy that leaves one unable to budge. You must not confuse the other with yourself and must understand each other's differences well.
Displaying an excessively intimate attitude. People who seek to gain intimacy with the other using various excuses and who contact them more frequently than necessary are those who are not at all confident that they have gained the other's trust. If you already trust each other, you do not rely on intimate feelings. In the eyes of a third party, it often appears to be a rather dry relationship.
Never associate with the kind of person who thinks that once you become close, it is acceptable to step boldly into the other's personal space. Such people ultimately try to keep the other under their control and influence, using the excuse of being close like family. Even in friendships, caution and consideration not to confuse one another are important. If that is not achieved, you cannot remain friends.
You do not always need to be sensitive and sharp. Especially in human relationships, a kind of feigned dullness is necessary, where you pretend not to know even when you have already grasped the motives for the other's actions or thoughts. Words should be interpreted as favorably as possible, and you should treat the other as a precious person, but never in a way that makes it seem like you are the only one unilaterally being considerate. As if having a duller sense than the other—this is the trick of socializing, and it is also a comfort to others.
- Excerpt from the words of Nietzsche -