Love possesses the eyes to discover the beauty within a person and the desire to keep focusing on that beauty. Love has an urge to lead people to a higher dimension.
When encountering something new—such as study, social interaction, work, hobbies, or reading—the wise approach is to confront it with the widest possible love. Even if you see aspects that are disagreeable, displeasing, misunderstood, or trivial, you should embrace it all comprehensively with the mindset of instantly forgetting those flaws, and watch silently until the very end. By doing so, you can finally see clearly what is there and what its heart is. Do not abandon things midway, swayed by emotions or moods like "like" or "dislike"; instead, maintain a broad love until the end. This is the trick to truly knowing something.
Surrendering oneself to sexual desire is extremely dangerous. This is because one forgets the love that was originally meant to be their true destiny, and only sexual desire becomes the bond between the two people. Love is something that grows little by little. Above all, one must transcend sexual desire first. It is appropriate for sexual desire to follow a step behind the development of love. By doing so, both you and your partner can feel deep love along with your bodies. That is also the path to happiness for both heart and body simultaneously.
Love is understanding and rejoicing in a person who feels and lives in a way different from yourself. Love is not about loving someone who resembles you, but about extending a bridge of joy to someone who lives in opposition to you. It is not about denying differences, but about loving those differences.
There is a certain distance between people in respect. It is overshadowed by awe. A hierarchy is created between the two, and a difference in power exists. However, love lacks such a perspective. Love is embracing without regard for up or down, difference, or superiority of power. For this reason, people with strong pride feel rebellious toward being loved. They feel better being respected than being loved. Therefore, people with excessive pride are sometimes not loved. I fully understand the desire to be loved and even respected, but choosing love over respect is the happier path.
Love allows. Love even allows for being greedy.
When you come to love someone, you act to keep your flaws or parts you dislike hidden from them. This does not come from vanity. It is to avoid hurting the person you love. And before they someday notice it and feel disgust, you try in every way to fix your flaws yourself. Such a person can grow into a good human being, or perhaps into a human being who constantly approaches a perfection similar to God.
From the perspective of others, one might wonder how they could love such a person. You might think, "They don't have any particularly wonderful traits, their appearance isn't beautiful, and their personality isn't particularly good..." However, the eyes of the one who loves are focused on an entirely different place. Love discovers and focuses on that person's beautiful and noble qualities, which are completely invisible to others.
- Excerpt from Nietzsche's Words -